Chevra Kadisha Conference Workshops - as of 6-8-03

  Taharah Cemetery/burial Funeral After Death/Mourning Bikkur Holim
1 Sunday  2:45 - 4:00 Jewish Views of the Afterlife in Our Death Practices Reconciling Cemetery Rules, Civil law and Halacha Non-Profit Ownership of Jewish Funeral Homes Understanding Why We Recite Psalms During Shmira Understanding Death Care Needs of Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/ and Transgendered Jews
How does our tradition speak about life after death? Connecting rituals before, during, and after taharah with their kabbalistic origins. How do we, or do we, set aside special areas for cremations and intermarried's. How do we reconcile cemetery rules for liners and other issues with halachic tradition Community or   synagogue ownership- what are the advantages and disadvantages and how does this compare to for-profit ownership. It is Jewish custom to recite tehillim during shmirah. What psalms in particular may be useful? Readings in Hebrew and English. From hospital care through mourning, LGBT families may experience conflict. Issues such as parental denial of relationship, power of attorney and legal contracts for medical purposes; transgender taharah; and same-sex mourners.
Dr. Simcha Paull Raphael R. Len Zucker, Sheldon Grosberg Rena Boroditsky, Richard Berger, Michael Goldstein R. Natan Fenner R. Linda Holtzman, Lisa Kodmur, Alan Armus
introduced by: R. Jack Riemer moderator: David Zinner moderator: R. Mel Glazer introduced by: Alison Jordan moderator: Lynn Greenhough
2  Sunday  4:15 - 
5 30
The Tachlis of Taharah Practical Concerns in a Jewish Cemetery Preserving Tradition and Gaining Economy: Traditional Practice at a Reasonable Price Traumatic Grief: Understanding Unexpected Loss Using Psalms to Enhance Bikkur Holim
This workshop will examine how we do rechitza, (physical washing), taharah, (spiritual purification) and halbasha,  (dressing the met/ah in  tachrichim). What are the nuts and bolts decisions that cemetery managers and volunteer Chevra members face. What is the halachah for metzevot; earth covered kever or cement; how have cemetery styles changed; mechanical lowering devices or ropes? Bidding, negotiating and publicizing a local contract.  Roundtable. Sudden losses require special sensitivity, intervention, and support. The differences between these kinds of traumatic losses and those that follow prolonged illnesses will be explored. Many of us recite psalms as part of our funeral practices. How can we include these texts to facilitate the effectiveness of our work with Bikkur Holim.
Lynn Greenhough Al Benoliel, Jeff Davidson, David Kaler Bob Hausman R. Simkha Weintraub R. Natan Fenner
moderator: R. Linda Holtzman moderator: R. Mel Glazer moderator: David Zinner introduced by: Carol Hausman introduced by: Alison Jordan
3  Monday  10:45  - Noon Taharah Practices and Training: Educating the Chaverim in Our Chevra Kadisha Women's Yiddish Prayers and Ceremonies for Cemeteries Exploring the Economics of Funeral Homes Communal Responses to Mourning Bikkur Holim: Learning From the Text
What training systems do different communities have in place. What are the problems we have encountered in our Chevra Kadisha and what resolutions can we share? Weissler explored tkhines in her ground breaking book Voices of the Matriarchs. One of the rituals she discovered was kneytlakh legn, laying of the wicks, a 1000 year tradition of measuring the circumference of grave sites. How can the values of a traditional Chevra (such as simplicity and affordability) influence policies and pricing? How can a traditional Chevra maintain a good working relationship with a funeral home? Shmira after 9/l1, which continued until the last body part was removed from the site. Grief and Growing is a healing retreat for the bereaved. How do we increase participation in our communities? Traditional Jewish texts provide the background to our understanding of this mitzvah.
Libby Bottero, Elyse Rabinowitz, Leonard Shwartz Chava Weissler Andy Fier, Ed Sagel, Jules Polonetsky, David Jacobson R. Eric Weiss, Armin Osgood R. Joseph Ozarowski
moderator: Linda Rishe introduced by: Lynn Greenhough moderator:  David Zinner moderator: Rena Boroditsky Introduced by:  R. Jack Riemer
4  Monday 1:45 - 3:00 Helping Your Chaverim Understand Their Emotions After Taharah Cemetery Management, Maintenance and Rescue Strategies Music and Funerals: Cantorial Selections Ethical Wills - a Participatory Workshop Maavor Yabok (17th century) and Sefer HaHayiim (18th century): Understanding the Foundations of Our Death Practices.
Many Chevra members will need to decompress after taharah.  How can we set up systems to help enable Chevra member mutual support? How do we create management systems to insure cemetery survival?  How have groups come together to save older cemeteries? A selection of songs in Hebrew, Yiddish, and English, appropriate for funerals. (mixed singing) Ethical wills date back to Yakov. For thousands of years they have guided generations of Jews with their simplicity and their shared values. These texts provide the basis and meaning for Jewish death ritual practices and meaning. R. Moss is interested in continuing this workshop after the conference with an on-line study group.
R. Mel Glazer Jane Salk, Irwin Lapping Cantors Ronit Rubin and Jan Morrison R. Jack Riemer R. Steven Moss
introduced by:  Carren Oler moderator:  Rena Boroditsky moderator:  David Zinner introduced by:  R. Linda Holtzman introduced by:   Lynn Greenhough
5 Tuesday  9:45 - 11:00 Educating the Jewish Community About Tahara The Halachah of Re-burials  The How's and Why's of Shiva Nichum Avelim: How to Comfort the Mourner While Arranging Funeral Logistics Viddui: Death Bed Confessional
Do we share our knowledge about the dignity and validity of these traditions in our communities? Can we include young people? What are effective community educational strategies? Re-burying in Israel, moving within a cemetery or from one cemetery to another . What is the halachah? How do we re-introduce the etiquette of shiva in communities that have lost their understanding of what it means? Examples of how the Chevra Kadisha can assist mourning families with planning funeral and burial arrangements. Many Jews have no idea we have a prayer of penitence recited before death. The Viddui is a deeply meaningful, similar to prayers we recite Yom Kippur, and is an essential part of our deathbed liturgy.
Carol Cunradi, Bruce Bloom, David Jacobson R. Breitowitz Anne Brener Jeff Davidson Alison Jordan, R. Eric Weiss
moderator:  Carren Oler Introduced by: David Zinner introduced by:  Lynn Greenhough moderator:   R. Linda Holtzman moderator:  Rena Boroditsky